I have been struggling to get out of a relationship that is going nowhere with a man who I know in my heart can't commit. I am relocating thousands of miles away, but the situation is killing me. Trying to move on and let go. Can you help? Really sorry about this. Great about the physical move, but it’s critical to get him out of your head, too. Since we tend to idealize people we’re in love with, it will really help to think about habits, traits, speech patterns, or clothing he might have worn

Maybe your guy had questionable breath, had a hobby that bugged you, was rude to your friends, or something else. Maybe he wore baseball caps in restaurants, which is a big peeve of mine. The guy was not perfect. Use that to your advantage. Write down things about him that annoyed you and bring them to mind any time you’re tempted to fantasize about him or the relationship. Keep that list handy. It can help pull you back to reality when your mind starts wandering.

Even though some people resist commitment, they still want to stay on your radar. If the guy starts texting or calling you just to say hi, and that kind of nonsense, it’s in your best interest to discourage that. The sooner you get him off your brain, the freer and happier you’ll be. Do not reward little check-ins that keep the attachment alive. Every bit of distance helps you heal.

I hope this helps. Congratulations on your move thousands of miles away. While I’ve never used EFT to get over a guy, I understand it’s helpful in getting over a broken heart. The point is to make the separation real in your mind as well as in your life. Once you stop feeding the fantasy, you give yourself a real chance to heal. That is where your freedom begins. Keep moving toward the life that is waiting for you.